After many a year of hearing, “You should write this stuff down”, no matter what “this stuff” happened to be on any given day; here I am. So into the fray I shall wander.
These days I find myself reflecting on all that I have learned while raising kids. Having a family, and even now being blessed with three Grandchildren. Sounds as it should be right? Well, there have been, shall we say, many bumps in the road. Or roads, as it were. If nothing else, I finally learned to pay attention to all the little things. Stress less. The importance of time for coffee. Talking with your love and good friends. Yeah, yeah took long enough!.
While there are tons of books, articles and blogs on being the best mum you can be, I find there to be a serious gap when it comes to being a Grandparent. There is a shift that happens to one’s out-look that is never mentioned.
We look at our Grandparents and don’t think of them as anything other than (in my case) awesome Grandparents. It’s hard to remember that they are, know and have done so much more. They have been people in their own right longer than we have known them. Weird.
There also seems to be a lack of information on how to shift from stay at home mum, doing for everyone, all the time; to having raised your kids and now doing more stuff for yourself (without feeling guilty.) Sounds ridiculous, I know. Yet so many of us are guilty of such a thing. We tend to forget that we are the glue that holds our little Universe together.
We must find the balance between taking care of others and having down time. You know, to do activities that make us feel good about ourselves, our purpose and our little corner of the world. This is important for our health and wellbeing on so many levels. Feeling good about life makes us refill the cup of happiness so that we may drink from it another day.
That being said however, this blog is not a how-to for that shift. Not exactly. This is a journey through all of those “someday” projects, ideas and dreams that I myself tend to put aside due to lack of time, finances and anything other deemed “more important right now.” Sound familiar? Not to mention all the hurdles life throws into ones path in an attempt to slow or stop us.
As I swim through the ashes of another life, the trick is trying to remember all those “someday” things. What still matters and what doesn’t? What is important now? What will be challenging, interesting or just plain old fun? Hmm. Oddly enough I didn’t know what to start with. Feeling lost I had to set it aside for a time. Now I don’t worry about it and just take life day by day. Well mostly.
Not being able to live without some form of to-do list (previously deemed “guidelines”), I believe the important part is balance. Actual to-do’s get done and there is always something going on throughout the day and often into the night. Having to take a freakishly lax need of sleep into account keeps things interesting as being quiet while creating is not what I would call a strength. And Papa needs his sleep.
It finally dawned on me, after many years of restless nights, that night time really is the best time for me to do all the things put off during the day, at least on nice sunny days. (I am with out a doubt solar powered.) It’s the best time for crafts and hobbies. Those things that get set aside when people are coming and going, through our beloved Grand Central Station of loves and friends.
Speaking of to-do’s and projects, I really must go and write guidelines for the up coming week. Do you have a planner? To-do lists or sticky notes? Or are you blessed enough to wing it and do it live? No matter your system, or lack there of, I hope you have a truly great week! Remember to take time to reflect on who you were, who you are now and what it took to make you awesome today. I’ll see you around, out of the comfort zone, into the fray.